There are a million things to do: You need to call the caterer, update your timeline with the photographer, make sure all the girls got their dresses fitted; All the while, your future MIL is nagging about the rehearsal dinner and your boss totally caught you on Pinterest instead of working on the project you were supposed to have finished yesterday. While all of these things need to get done, they can't be done well if you’re rushing through each task like a madwoman. Today I’m going to cover eight things to help you stay balanced and de-stress while you plan your wedding!

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8 ways to destress while you plan your wedding

Take Time For You

Don’t be afraid to stop for a moment and focus on you. Schedule some time to disconnect. Shut off your phone. Yes, you heard me. Shut that thing off and:
  • Treat yo-self to an at home spa day with this amazing smelling spa set
  • Read a chapter of your favorite novel
  • Schedule a mani-pedi at your favorite salon
  • Bake something yummy!


Plan a Date Night

It's so easy to get caught up in the fuss of planning the perfect, most memorable day that you lose sight of the entire purpose behind getting married. Plan a fun date with your fiancé to remind yourselves why you’re getting married in the first place. No wedding talk allowed.

Keep a Regular Exercise Routine

It can be easy to fall into a lazy slump when you feel like there’s too much on your plate, but part of staying healthy and stress-free means keeping active. Exercising is a great way to let off steam. Keeping a regular routine will also keep you balanced. Even if you can’t fit in an official trip to the gym make time for some kind of exercise.

Get Help!

Don’t forget that you are the BRIDE. If you don’t have a wedding coordinator, don’t fool yourself into thinking that you have to be one. The first thing you can do is hire vendors that you TRUST. This will take a lot of the weight off of you so that you can focus on the important things. Secondly, choose a designated “day-of helper." Let’s say you forgot something important at the hotel, or perhaps you just need someone to make a last minute coffee run; Big or small, your "day-of helper" can be a lifesaver if something doesn’t quite go as planned. Ideally, you want to choose someone who is not already in your bridal party or family because they will need to be present during key moments and photos. Your go-to person should be someone reliable and trustworthy. If you can’t think of anyone off hand, keep in mind there are professional Day Of Coordinators who do just this!

Plan a Girl’s Night Out

Just like your fiancé, your friends can sometimes feel a little left out during the madness of planning your big day. Take time out to spend with your favorite girls, sans wedding talk. Let them know that even though your life is changing, you’re still here for them just like you always have been. Spending non-wedding related time with your besties will not only help you stay balanced, but it will also help you avoid drama.


Maintain a balanced diet in the months leading up to your wedding. That being said, it’s OK to reward yourself with a treat every now and then- you deserve it. Plan ahead of time to have snacks and lunch available to you and your wedding party on the day of. Resist the urge to skip breakfast or lunch on your wedding day. The last thing you want is low blood sugar causing trouble. If you’re worried about having a nervous tummy, plan for light, healthy meals on the day of to keep you sustained.

Stay Organized

If you don’t already have one, buy a three ring binder with dividers and put everything related to your wedding in it. Keep a running checklist of what needs to get done, and who’s in charge of the task. Take it one step at time. Rome wasn’t built in a day and your wedding won’t be either.


Don’t Lose Sight of the Purpose Behind Your Wedding

You’re starting a new life with the person you love most. I love this quote from one bride who was featured on The Rock ’N Roll Bride. I couldn’t have said it better myself...

People get so caught up in the wedding machine…what brides don’t realize is that two things last: the pictures and the new family relationships. Other than that, a wedding is just a day.


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  1. These are all great tips and so helpful for your couples!

  2. I love this idea, what a great article for your upcoming brides!!! Great thinking! Wedding day stresses can get really overwhelming!


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